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The Life and Times of a Moderate Vegetarian


I'm a dental hygienist, pyrography artist, avid gardener, writer, vegetarian, world traveler, and many other things!

Vegetarian: A person who does not eat meat, and sometimes other animal products, especially for moral, religious, environmental, or health reasons.

Vegetarian: A person who does not eat meat, and sometimes other animal products, especially for moral, religious, environmental, or health reasons.

After 22 years of being a vegetarian I've changed a lot both as a person—and also in the way that I view my choice to be one in the first place.

During that time, society and the way vegetarians are perceived has (somewhat) changed, as well. Most people have at least heard of vegetarianism and know what it is. Most restaurants offer some vegetarian options now, whereas just 22 years ago there were virtually none.

I went through various stages of development: from the know-it-all, to the extremist, to the morally superior, to the quiet vegetarian, to what I am now, a moderate vegetarian.

This is an ode to my journey thus far, and a view into the life of a normal, moderate (not extremist, not wishy-washy) vegetarian.

Moby's essays changed my life.

Moby's essays changed my life.

How It All Started

In 1996 I was 19 years old and had graduated high school earlier that year. While attending a few classes at the local university, I got a full-time job flipping burgers at McDonald's. Before long I was the grill manager, in charge of all the food preparation at the restaurant.

I've always been an empathetic person, so when I came across Moby's album Everything Is Wrong and read his essays and information about vegetarianism in the liner notes, I was greatly affected by the facts about factory farming that he presented.

That, coupled with my brother's having just "gone vegetarian," and my full-time job scraping animals off the grill (only to toss them in the trash) formed the impetus needed for me to become an instant convert: one day I just "went vegetarian." I've never really looked back until now.

I had no goals in mind, other than not contributing to a system I found to be out of hand. I didn't know I'd be a vegetarian now, 22 years later, but I did know that I didn't want to be part of the dogmatic system that existed at the time (and that I didn't agree with.)

It wasn't difficult once I weighed the pluses and minuses overall. And to be honest, once I stopped eating meat I knew I was on the right path for me.

Video: Amazing Vegetarian Facts

Early Experiences

Back in 1996 vegetarianism was still seen as a wild and insane choice, and there was very little awareness or understanding of it. It was seen as a diet for dirty hippies and others of their ilk, and we were often portrayed as weak and unhealthy. It made me feel like a rebel (which I guess I kind of was.)

Going on a road trip across the country with my parents that summer, each restaurant we stopped at only offered fries and salad as vegetarian options. By the end of that vacation, my brother and I were so tired of salads and french fries I don't think we ate them again for months.

So eating out was a family drama, as was finding vegetarian food in the grocery store that wasn't just straight-up raw vegetables. The few things that did exist were mostly disgusting contrivances. We may have been vegetarian, but that didn't mean we had no taste buds. Making pizzas with fruit paste instead of tomato sauce must appeal to someone, but that someone isn't me!

For the most part, I just did my own thing and hoped society would catch up to the growing trend, which it finally has. It's character-forming, to say the least, to go against the tide, and I'm glad I was strong enough to get through the rough spots at the beginning.

Vegetarians are not unhealthy weaklings.

Vegetarians are not unhealthy weaklings.

Common Misconceptions

  • We don't get enough protein. Don't ask us how we get our protein. I'm not sure how many times I've been asked this question, but by now it's got to be in the multiple hundreds. Protein is one of the easiest nutrients to get, and it's virtually in everything. When I did my 2-week dietary assessment, I found out I'd been consuming twice the protein I was supposed to. Vegetarian protein comes from vegetables, whole grains, legumes, beans, tofu, soy, nuts, seeds, and yeast flakes. There is NO shortness of protein in our diets at all.
  • We're all skinny wimps. Many believe that vegetarians are skinny weaklings. It's possibly true with what we call "junk food vegetarians," or those who eat total crud. For those of us who eat a balanced mix of vegetables, grains, nuts, seeds, and fruits, our bodies are actually extremely healthy! Scientific evidence has found that the best athletes in ancient Rome, the gladiators, were strictly vegetarian. People commonly called them the "barley crunchers!" Journal of Sports Science and Medicine (2008) 7, 565.
  • We are vitamin deficient. It's commonly believed that vegetarians will be missing tons of core vitamins from a "deficient" diet; however, that's not the case. It's easy to achieve total health with a mix of veggies, grains, nuts, and fruits. We read every food label religiously, and our entire lifestyle is focused around nutritional awareness.
  • It's hard to be vegetarian. Actually, it's not difficult, and it is very fulfilling. If you try it for a couple of weeks, you'll notice significant changes, such as when I realized my acid reflux was completely gone. The most difficult thing is dealing with all the negativity surrounding it, but to be honest, since I started letting bygones be bygones, I've had no issues whatsoever.
Extremism doesn't help the movement.

Extremism doesn't help the movement.

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PETA and the Extremists

I'm not proud of my time as a vegetarian extremist, but am content in the fact that it was a short phase in my development and my understanding of things. I felt at odds with society, and also felt extreme empathy for the animals being subjected to the tortures of factory farms and animal testing.

This combination, probably along with my young age, made me perfect fodder for PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals.) Though I wasn't militant, still my attitude was less than helpful. There is no reason to sacrifice humans for animals or animals for humans. I don't agree with either way of looking at things.

At the time, I didn't realize what PETA was, or pick up on their negativity, insanity, or the fact that they do more harm for the movement than any other organization. I was a teenager full of ideals, angst, empathy, and swirling emotions. PETA seemed to be composed of the same types of people, and being part of it made me feel accepted and supported.

It wasn't until later that I distanced myself both from PETA and its followers. While the idea is agreeable, and I totally agree that horrible things happen to animals, the way they go about things only serves to alienate not only non-vegetarians, but vegetarians like myself as well.

Learning of PETA's total hypocrisy (they kill 98% of the animals they "save") swiftly moved me onto my next phase. To put it in a nutshell, I finally realized they are a money-making factory that masquerades as an animal welfare organization. They do some good work, but it's vastly overshadowed by their hypocrisy and hatred.

Once I learned to be confident in my choices, I steered clear of this negativity.

My Vegetarian Phases

  • Know-it-all: In this early stage I knew that I was smarter than everyone else, and that my diet was the best for everyone else. I didn't realize until later that I was just alienating people and giving a bad name to vegetarians.
  • Extremist: After finding out the gruesome facts about factory farming, the meat industry, and animal testing, my empathy kicked in. But after being mocked for this empathy, I turned to the only place I knew about, PETA, and became an extreme vegetarian.
  • Morally superior: I was, after all, taking the so-called moral high road, and that made me a better person than anyone else who chose the so-called moral low road. I had no more tolerance for people thinking the inhumane treatment of animals was somehow acceptable. I was very judgmental and it was hypocritical of me to love animals but hate people.
  • Quiet: After I realized that I was just living my own life the way I wanted to live it, I scorned any type of conversation about my vegetarianism whatsoever. It was nobody's business but my own, and I didn't feel the need to proselytize. I was making personal amends for all my harshness in the preceding years. I felt bad for having been such a creep.
  • Informative: After clamming up for years about why I became a vegetarian, now when people would ask me about it (I never volunteered), I would give them all sorts of facts and sources. I was no longer trying to convince them, but was giving them some resources in case they were (actually) interested.
  • Moderate: Now after 22 years and many phases, you could say I've mellowed considerably and just become what I am: a person living life the way I want to, based on my own views, knowledge, and empathy. If people want to know why I'm vegetarian, I'll tell them in a few lines. It's up to them to inquire further if they're interested. I stand by my choices and believe they're the best choices for me. I realize everyone is at different stages, just like I was, and still am.

Some Famous Vegetarians

  • Albert Einstein
  • Albert Schweitzer
  • Alec Baldwin
  • Benjamin Franklin
  • Billy Idol
  • Brad Pitt
  • Brandy
  • Carl Lewis
  • Christian Bale
  • Clint Eastwood
  • Ellen DeGeneres
  • George Bernard Shaw
  • Kirk Hammett
  • KRS-One
  • Leonardo da Vinci
  • Mike Tyson
  • Nikola Tesla
  • Ozzy Osbourne
  • Pink
  • Plato
  • President Bill Clinton
  • Prince
  • Pythagoras
  • Robert Smith
  • Rob Zombie
  • Shania Twain
  • Sir Isaac Newton
  • Socrates
People often mock what they don't understand.

People often mock what they don't understand.

Societal Defense Mechanisms

"How many vegetarians does it take to screw in a lightbulb? I don't know, but where do you get your protein!?" Vegetarian jokes.

I understand it's easy to mess with people who are generally always totally serious about certain topics. I get that, and I have no problems poking fun at myself sometimes. But there is a definite note of straight up meanness directed toward us at times, and that's really what I'm most concerned about.

I've never quite understood the hatred that many people have toward vegetarians, but believe me, it is very real, and it is very prevalent. I'm not forcing my views on others, I'm not telling people how to live their lives, and I'm not judging people for eating meat. I ate meat for 19 years myself.

I'm not a vegetarian because I want to be a better person than you are. I'm a vegetarian because I have chosen a path that I feel to be the right one for me. I don't think it's right for others to judge me or mock my choices, or vice versa. My choices do not hurt others; in fact my goal is to be the change I want to see in the world.

Vegetarian options are now widely available.

Vegetarian options are now widely available.

Positive Developments

I know I've brought up some of the negative aspects of both myself as I went through my various phases, and society's reactions to a vegetarian diet. That said though, there has been fantastic progress, both nationwide and worldwide, in the past 22 years.

I've traveled all over the place and have found that people generally know what a vegetarian is now, and almost always offer vegetarian menu options that entail more than just french fries and salad. Though ironically I don't eat out often at all anymore, when I do I no longer feel left out.

Grocery stores have entire food sections now just for vegetarians and vegans (strict vegetarians), and I've gotta say the range of foods and possibilities keeps growing each year. It's an exciting time to be a vegetarian, as there are more options now than ever before, and a larger support system of like-minded people.

Vegetarianism has finally become an accepted diet in the West, and with that comes more awareness about why we choose this lifestyle, and what it has to offer. That's for another day, but I hope you'll find the resources I've posted below helpful for now.

Easy Vegetarian Lasagna


  • 1 jar of tomato/pasta sauce
  • 1 package flat lasagna noodles
  • Package of ricotta cheese, vegan soy cheeze, or soft tofu (mashed)
  • Grated cheese or soy cheeze for the top of the lasagna
  • 3 cups lightly steamed vegetables (spinach, mushrooms, zucchini, onion, etc.)


  1. Half-cook the lasagna noodles. They'll finish cooking in the oven.
  2. Spread a thin layer of tomato sauce on the bottom of the pan and cover with a single layer of pre-cooked lasagna noodles.
  3. Spread 1/3 of ricotta or tofu mixture over the noodles using a spatula.
  4. Spread 1/3 of the lightly steamed vegetables over the noodles.
  5. Repeat for two more layers (noodles, sauce, ricotta/tofu, veggies).
  6. Grate some cheese/soy cheeze over the top.
  7. Cover and bake for 35-45 minutes.
  8. Remove the cover and let the cheese/soy cheeze on the top melt and turn golden.
  9. Remove from the oven and allow to stand for 7-10 minutes before cutting into squares.

Learn More About Being Vegetarian

If you're interested, here are some sources to help you understand the reasons why millions of people have chosen this path, and to get you started if you want to give it a try.

How much do you know about vegetarianism?

For each question, choose the best answer. The answer key is below.

  1. It's difficult for vegetarians to get enough protein
    • True
    • False
  2. The earliest records of vegetarianism come from ancient India and ancient Greece in the 6th century BCE
    • False
    • True
  3. It's hard for vegetarians to get enough vitamins and nutrients
    • True
    • False
  4. Most vegetarians are total wimps
    • False
    • True

Answer Key

  1. False
  2. True
  3. False
  4. False

© 2012 Kate P


Jennifer Beckers from Palm Beach County on September 21, 2014:

Thank you for sharing your story. I've been a Pescatarian for about a year now and I felt myself going through many of the stages you described. It's not easy dealing with all the criticism, but hey it's our life right? I'ts our body and we can put whatever we want in it.

Silva Hayes from Spicewood, Texas on October 11, 2012:

A great, informative, thought-provoking hub. I'm a Vegetarian going on 40 years. Born in west Texas, there have been some rough times when traveling, for example, when I asked the server if a certain menu item was vegetarian and the entire restaurant became dead silent. (I will ask if the rice and beans are vegetarian and get a puzzled look, but what I am wondering is, was the rice cooked in chicken stock? were the beans flavored with ham hock? You're right; it is easier now, and I live in a great place for vegetarian food, Austin, Texas! Voted your hub UP and interesting.

TheWinKing from South Africa on September 14, 2012:

What an amazing writeup and story... This reads like a guide to being the "Perfect Vegetarian". If you ever wrote that book, I'd totally buy it :)

Kate P (author) from The North Woods, USA on September 11, 2012:

We need to all just live the way we feel is the best for us, and try not to condemn others for their views or the choices they make. After all, as Plato said, "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."

Thank you all very much for your uplifting comments!

Tara Carbery from Cheshire, UK on August 23, 2012:

Bravo and bloody brilliant! This hub would be great to educate everyone! I've been a vegetarian since I was 10. No one around me was but I stuck to my guns. I still get hassle off people now for not eating meat or fish. It annoys me as I never ever go on to anyone else about why they choose to eat meat. I'm happy just to know i'm not eating any flesh. Voted up up up!

Giselle Maine on June 24, 2012:

A very helpful perspective - there are some very good etiquette tips in here that non-vegetarians should be aware of.

I am non-vegetarian myself but I have plenty of vegetarian friends and family so I am used to doing vegetarian cooking (if I'm hosting vegetarian guests I will cook a vegetarian version of whatever meat dish I'm also serving, replete with beans, etc).

A very positive thing that meat-eaters ought to be aware of is that vegatarians are actually very supportive of non-vegatarian's efforts to cook vegetarian, so don't be afraid to try. At a big pot-luck party my friend was hosting I knew there would be vegetarians and meat-eaters. So I cooked a meat dish and a vegatarian dish where the meat was replaced by a bean mix. Well, many vegetarians oohed and aahed over my vegetarian dish! I was thrilled! (For the record, the meat dish did not get the same level of attention even though meat-eaters probably outnumbered vegetarians at the party). So the take-home message for meat-eaters is, vegetarians are super-supportive of your attempts to cook vegetarian, so don't be afraid of the unknown when you cook for vegetarians!

Pamela Hutson from Moonlight Maine on June 10, 2012:

Awesome hub! At my age, I don't have the energy to be anything BUT moderate about most! I appreciate your honesty and humor. Thumbs up!

Kate P (author) from The North Woods, USA on May 07, 2012:

Thanks for the great comments!

There's something to be said about a happy-medium, and knowledge of what's out there is a great first step to eating ethically (not just for animals, but for the environment as well.)

Well, I've noticed that if you make delicious vegetarian meals, carnivores often will forget their grievances (at least for a little while.) Good luck with the lasagna.

Catherine Taylor from Canada on May 07, 2012:

Great hub, it took me back to my extremist days when I needed to set everyone straight. I guess it's just part of youth. I am now a partial vegetarian, I don't eat meat everyday. Marrying a total carnivore kind of forced my hand, but I'm sure he'll love your vegetarian lasagna recipe.

2patricias from Sussex by the Sea on May 02, 2012:

Neither of us is vegetarian, but we try to eat ethically. This means we that read food labels, and buy very selectively. It also means that we hardly ever eat meat when we are away from home, as it is usually impossible to find out where it has come from.

When we first started asking questions about food we were often treated as cranks (or worse). Now it seems to be almost fashionable.

Kate P (author) from The North Woods, USA on May 01, 2012:

Thanks so much for the wonderful comments; they mean a lot to me. I'm glad to see such acceptance of this way of life that I and many others have chosen. Live and let live!

Sueswan on May 01, 2012:

Hi Faceless39

I eat very little meat. I like your approach towards being a vegetarian.

Voted up and awesome

Take care

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on April 26, 2012:

I'm proud to be a vegetarian...{sing to the tune of "I'm proud to be an american." :-) You should also be proud for writing this hub!

Glad I found you on Twitter. I like your style. Can't wait to dive into more of your articles. I'm voting up on this, interesting and sharing.

HarperDavis from Midwest on April 23, 2012:

Love your hub, I'm going to try your recipes! I too don't take too kindly to veggie extremists, especially since I became one due to health reasons and not necessarily to save the whales initially. :)

Oh, and nice panda. :)

fucsia on April 09, 2012:

I am a moderate veggie too. My choice is a personal choice and I do not want force it on others. I limit myself and only sometimes, to inform those who ask me something about vegetarianism.

I think that the extreme things are always wrong, like PETA that you mentioned. The right thing is find our balance between inner values and the world outside of us.

Great Hu!!

Kate P (author) from The North Woods, USA on April 05, 2012:

I agree with everyone here. We shouldn't force our views on others; life is most definitely a journey with countless phases and realizations; and being moderate in anything is often a good way to go.

Thanks for all the great comments!

vegetarianceleste from San Fransisco on April 05, 2012:

I like the way you've explained the concept of 'moderate vegetarian' - I am one myself. It seems to me that the extremists give the wrong impression to the wider public, and as a result it makes some people less inclined to try it for themselves.

I hope your article changes a few minds.

hoteltravel from Thailand on April 03, 2012:

I liked the honest way you described your many phases of being a vegetarian. It is tough if you choose to follow an offbeat path. One of my friends and co-traveler in many adventures is a vegetarian. I have heard strange remarks on his food choice. And yes, eating out is easier now with more options available for vegetarians. Voted up and interesting.

Deborah Neyens from Iowa on March 31, 2012:

Great hub. It was interesting to read about the phases you went through. I'm not a vegetarian but I eat less and less meat as time goes on. I don't know that I will ever give up meat completely, but I respect people who make the choice to do so. I know it can be a difficult one in this society.

lovingleaves on March 28, 2012:

Loved this article. Loved hearing about your "phases". It's all a journey isn't it? :) Thanks for sharing.

krosch on March 27, 2012:

Excellent hub and the idea of being a moderate anything. A person that lives their own life in a good manner and the way you see fit is a good place to be. This my life is perfect and yours should be just like mine idea is one of the biggest causes of disagreements and strife in every day life.

If we can all make our own good choices and not worry so much about others being just like us, we will be far better off.

Good job and keep it up. :)

Mo Cee on March 27, 2012:

Good article. I, too, have distanced myself from Peta for the same reasons you mentioned. After 25 years as a veggie I have gone through similar phases and am glad to be where I am now; wiser and kinder for the journey. Peace, ey!

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